There was no ticking, but building pressure told me that soon my time would be up. The EMT/Nurse worked with intensity over my abdomen. He was calm and he kept me engaged while focused on defusing the “devise”. Trial and failure, trial and failure… my heart rate and blood pressure rose in tandem. Beads of sweat were appearing on his forehead. Images of action movies came to mind; a hapless victim locked into an explosive vest, bomb disposal people working feverishly to save him… a race against the clock… (Continued later in this post)

June 3rd, The University of Kansas Medical Center: I was prepped and wheeled into the operating room. I had met with the surgeon, his resident assistant, and the anesthesiologist doctor and her resident assistant. All was in order and proceeding as planned. The Aquablation procedure was novel, minimally invasive, and primarily robotic. In a matter of minutes it held promise to resolve my annoying problem. The one faced by the vast majority of men “of a certain age” , BPH.

Over the last 20 years urination has become increasingly difficult. A weakening “stream”, multiple trips to the bathroom at night, incomplete voiding. In the general population it is estimated that half of all men show symptoms by age 60 and 90% by age 85. Not all require treatment, and BPH often responds favorably to daily medication. However, my age and genetics were both against me. Medication had become less effective and the condition more impactful on my quality of life.

TURP (transurethral resection of the prostate) has been the surgical standard of care for BPH. I did not wish to undergo this procedure as there was a small, but not insignificant, risk of erectile disfunction, incontinence, and retrograde ejaculation. (Yes, those things still matter to me/us!)

Earlier this year, during my annual visit with the urologist, Aquablation was presented to me for the first time as an option. A little research on my part and it seemed to “check all the right boxes”. Although in common use for less than 5 years, it looks to replace TURP as the standard of care. Robotic, it was performed in a tenth of the time, virtually no erectile or incontinence problems, and highly effective. I was sold.

The surgery went well. An overnight in the hospital with an irrigation catheter was expected. The “test” the following morning would determine if I would go home with/without the catheter. I failed the “test” (about half do, the ability to fully void). June 4th, I went home with the catheter in place. It was to be removed the following Monday, June 9th.

June 6th, (afternoon): Urine stopped flowing through the catheter. Christine and I followed instructions for resolving a blockage, but no-go. A trip to meet a urology resident physician at the hospital fixed the problem.

June 6th. (late night): Urine again stopped flowing through the catheter. Another trip to see the resident physician at the hospital. It was decided to replace the catheter but first run another voiding “test”. I PASSED!! Not only did I “pass”, but instead of a squirt gun, I was like a firehose! There was some blood in the urine, not uncommon and likely to continue for a week or more as I healed. Instructions: No lifting, no straining, no significant physical activity… and no sex for the next 4 weeks.

June 9th: I had come down with a nasty case of bronchitis. A visit to urgent care, an x-ray and medications prescribed. Back home and resting miserably.

June 10th: Christine has caught my bronchitis. It is worse with her.

June 11th: Christine passes out and does a hard “face-plant” on the bathroom floor. I hear her panicked call for me followed by a loud “thud”. Running into the bathroom I see my wife on the floor, eyes open but rolled up in her head. She is unresponsive. In a panic, I call 911. The ambulance is on the way. I try and revive her. Nothing. I begin to position her for CPR. Am I a widower? Panic, tears, repeatedly calling her name… SHE BREATHS!!! She responds to my voice, moving her hands and feet on my request, but still otherwise immobile. Stroke?

Our daughter Alexis (who is a nurse) and the ambulance arrive. Christine is transported to St. Luke’s Hospital, less than 2 miles from our home. Their emergency room is packed, and Christine is relegated to a bed in a hallway. Triage and a CT scan confirm that she is negative for stroke. There is more testing (negative for a heart attack) and an IV saline drip seems to really bring her around. 4 hours later and we are heading back home. The diagnosis: severe dehydration secondary to the bronchitis.

June 19th. It is our 48th anniversary and we have evening dinner plans. However, that morning I go to the bathroom and “midstream” everything stops! I can’t pee! Off to the emergency room and The University of Kansas Hospital (KU Med, about 4 miles from our home). Hydration to build some pressure and if that doesn’t work a catheter. With one last attempt I pass a large blood clot and urine is again free flowing. We return home but dinner plans are cancelled. Carryout ice cream is the substitute.

June 26th: Again, I suddenly can’t urinate. We are back in the ER at KU Med. It is necessary to insert a catheter to bring relief. I am held for observation and fluids are pushed into me. Later that night urine stops flowing in the catheter. I feel pressure building in my abdomen and I urgently and repeatedly hit the button for the nurse.

(Resumed from the start of this post) …The catheter has multiple ports. One to inflate the balloon that holds it in place, one for irrigation purposes, and the exit for drainage. My nurse is a former EMT, accustomed to being adaptive to emergency situations and calming “victims”. He is the BEST. Like trying to rock a car back and forth to get it unstuck from a snowdrift, he repeatedly pushes and then attempts to pull water into and out of the catheter ports with a huge syringe. Finally, a huge blood clot is drawn out and the flow resumes. We are both overcome with relief.

June 27th: I am still in the emergency room. It has been 24 hours and the attending urologist has admitted me. A room has become available in the urology section on the 8th floor. However, as I am being prepped for the move, the catheter again blocks. My emergency room nurse is unable to quickly free the blockage. A call is made to the 8th floor and a physician’s assistant (PA) is awaiting my arrival to work on the problem. As she later explains, she is authorized to be “more aggressive”.

After many tries and failures, and with herculean effort, she manages to dislodge and remove countless large and small blood clots through the catheter, at least a cupful. A surgical team was the next step if she had not succeeded.

June 28th: It appears that the internal bleeding that had been the source of the clots has finally stopped. It is decided to do another urine trial. The catheter is removed and I am instructed to “push fluids”. I give three consecutive urine specimens, each as I need to pee. It is hoped that they will become progressively lighter in color, indicating the hemorrhaging has ended. SUCCESS!! I am visited by the head urologist and his surgery team. They are happy to inform me that their intervention is not deemed necessary. I am released to go home.

For the next few days I suffer from PTPD (post traumatic pee disorder). Every visit to the bathroom brings with it the lingering anxiety, “Will the bleeding return?” Thankfully, it does not. All clear, literally and figuratively. Interestingly enough, there is an actual diagnosable condition called “urophobia” the fear of things relating to urine. Who knew.

I understand that a very small percent of patients have post-surgery complications from Aquablation. I must represent the entire population. Lucky in love, unlucky in the operating room. I am the person who manages to make the simple complicated. Through it all Christine has been steadfast at my side. I have said it before and I will say it again, in the marriage lottery I hit the jackpot.

Peace Everyone. Pete

PS. There is more: June 29th: It is 4 a.m., we are in the middle of a thunderstorm. I am resting awake in bed. FLASH, CRASH… lightning has struck somewhere very close to us. Christine “jumped out of her skin”. With the passing of shock-driven adrenaline we fall back to sleep.

The next morning: My laptop computer stopped charging, our elevator (yes we have one) indicates that it is on the 5th floor of our two-story house. My hybrid EV car isn’t charging. I resolve everything except the elevator, but later in the week we find that our irrigation system controller is “fried” and the 8-note manual strike doorbell Westminster chimes no longer work.

Yesterday we found chunks of bark on our front porch. 50 feet away our monumental pine tree located in the front yard looks like a 30-foot-tall bear has used it as a scratching post. I fear that this beautiful tree is standing with one root in the grave. We have contacted our insurance company and an arborist.

PPS. Our son Peter and grandson, also Peter, visited this morning. Son Peter shared a joke: Three men “up in their years” were bemoaning the ravages of their advanced age. The first complained that he wished he could again have bowel movements without resorting to laxatives. The second complained about the weakness of his urine stream, the difficulty starting and the start/stop to completion. The third man said, “At 6 a.m. every morning, and without difficulty or assistance, I completely empty my bladder and have a full bowel movement.” In unison, his friends replied, “Then why for God’s sake are you complaining!”

“I wake up at 7:30 a.m..”

One more time, Peace Everyone. Pete

Kansas City, July 4, 2025.

The familiarity that is a natural consequence of a long term relationship can dim appreciation for a partner’s virtues.

June 19th is our 48th wedding anniversary. In recent years I have learned to occasionally step back and look upon Christine with a stranger’s eyes.

In those moments I fully appreciate my good fortune in winning the “marriage lottery”. 

Peace Everyone. Pete

“And God spoke all these words, saying, ‘I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. You shall have no other gods before me.’”

The little god leered…

And Jesus said, “YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND…”

…the little god sneered…

 “…This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.”

…and the little god laughed out loud.

  

The little god did not create a Universe, only the corruption that guides a World.

The little god is not eternal. He has not lived without beginning nor will he live without end. To the little god it is enough that he is born within the human heart and will end with its last beat.

The little god glories to hide behind noble words. Feed the Hungry, Clothe the Naked, Welcome the Stranger… Those words are on the lips of man, but the deeds are those guided by the little god: Let Us be fed while They hunger. Let Us keep our plenty while They perish in their want. Cast out the Stranger for he is different from US.

Lying, cheating, greed, bigotry, hatred, jealousy, are the disciples of the little god. His creed is the pledge of power, by any means.

Made in our image and likeness, the little god is more real and more powerful than any Deity…

…until he is no longer worshiped.

Peace Everyone. Pete

 

 

 

May 11th, we arrived in San Francisco.

With a population of over 827,000 SF is the 4th largest city in California, 17th largest in the United States, and among US cities with a population over 250,000 San Francisco ranks first in the US by per capita income. Prices, especially in real estate and dining, certainly reflected this. We paid $20 for two ice cream cones at a Ben and Jerry’s located in the Castro District where an ordinary looking 3-bedroom flat was advertised for sale at over 4 million dollars.

Simple breakfast for two (eggs Benedict, eggs with waffle, one tea, no juice or coffee) was consistently at or north of $60.

Unlike Chicago, we did not have pre-arranged activities. We knew generally what we wanted our 4 days to include: a Bay cruise, Fisherman’s Wharf, Haight-Ashbury, The Castro, China Town, Cable Cars, and some fine dining. Alcatraz was a “no”, been there, done it, and glad we did. Perhaps it would have been on the list if we had a 5th day.

Our hotel room was terrific! Located at the corner to China Town, it was a block from the cable cars, the financial district and Union Square shopping.

We were on the 8th floor. An enormous room, equally spacious bathroom, and best of all an expansive private balcony. The balcony would have received more attention from us but for the cool temperatures we experienced, daytime highs in the 60’s and nighttime lows in the 50’s). Thankfully it did not rain during our stay.

Dining: Morning breakfasts were pricey. We did not dine at the hotel, choosing instead a variety of pleasant morning eateries.

The sign actually reads, “Eat Crab”, but I couldn’t resist this angle.

Each evening we chose well regarded restaurants. Notable was John’s Grill where I ordered the house specialty, “Sam Spade’s Lamb Chops”, made famous by Humphry Bogart in “The Maltese Falcon”. Jazz garnished our excellent dinner.

Lunches were unplanned. We seized opportunity where we could: Chowder at the wharfs, and a delightful surprise in the form of a very authentic Irish Pub located in an alley across from our hotel.

Since our hotel was literally at the corner of China Town, strolling its streets and visiting its shops was a first day order of business.

On our last night we dined in one of its most popular restaurants, the R & G Lounge. Always packed with locals and out-of-towners, we were fortunate to score a reservation.

One day we rode the street cars (as distinguished from San Francisco’s 19th Century cable cars) to Haight-Ashbury and The Castro.

These street cars, creatures of the mid-Twentieth Century, are tethered to overhead electric lines. Each car is dedicated to the ghosts of like historic services in other US cities, among them Cleveland, Detroit, and Kansas City.

Haight-Ashbury still seeks to embrace its psychedelic/counterculture history and proudly points to the haunts of famous luminaries.

This was once the home of Janice Joplin.

However, with the legalization of cannabis in California and 38 other States the “naughty weed” reputation of Haight Ashbury is more past than present.

“The Castro” has its own vibe.

This neighborhood of charming (expensive!) homes and themed shops became a LGBTQ refuge in the mid-Twentieth Century. Its main street features the “LGBTQ Walk of Fame” bronze plaques and displays of pride flags.

The Twin Peaks Tavern was the first gay bar in the US to have plate glass windows where patrons were openly visible to the public (1972).

We spent an afternoon at Fisherman’s Wharf which included a cruise of the bay.

SF has a lower-than-average rate of violent crime, but minutes before we arrived there was a fatal shooting. We passed police officers as they taped off the intersection and erected a CSI tent. The homicide was prominent in that evening’s news, the city’s 11th. The shooter turned himself in to police that afternoon.

At our last visit to SF we were walking the Golden Gate Bridge when not 100 feet in front of us a pedestrian threw himself off the bridge, plunging to his death in the waters below.

The 90-minute Bay cruise provided a pleasant display of the Golden Gate Bridge, Alcatraz, and the skyline, among other sights.

No visit to San Francisco would be complete without a ride on the celebrated 19th Century cable cars.

This system, which dates to 1873, once featured over 23 lines. Today only 3 lines remain, more as a tourist attraction than as a public conveyance.

To our surprise the highlight of our 4 days was not any of the above attractions, but rides in taxi cabs. These were not ordinary cabs but rather Waymo’s self-driving Jaguar cabs. They were EVERYWHERE!

The experience was both ordinary and surreal.  You download the Waymo app to your cell phone, and “hale” a cab in the same way that one would with Uber or Lyft. “Strange” begins with the car pulling up to the curb. It displays your initials electronically on the roof to let you know that this is your cab. You use your cell phone to unlock the door and enter the cab. You can put luggage in the trunk (no cabbie to help) and I understand that the cab will not drive off without allowing you to retrieve your bags. We did not test this feature.

A human voice welcomes you and instructs passengers to fasten seatbelts, then you are off. To the uninitiated it is weird. Our “Driver-Les”, (pun intended) is polite and invisible. “He” obeys all traffic laws and navigates the challenges of congested urban traffic with expertise. “He” is patient, never sounding the horn at distracted drivers although a human would likely have. Pedestrians, emergency vehicles, obstructions, pose no difficulty. We, on the other hand, don’t know how to act. We found ourselves uncharacteristically quiet, as if there were a driver present. We gaped at the steering wheel moving of its own accord. Occasionally we would quietly laugh, noting the contradictions of rearview mirrors, driver seatbelt and cupholder.

The cost was approximately what one would expect for any cab ride. It was a real bargain when we factored in the entertainment value. We rode several times, would do so again, and recommend it. Waymo does not drive to the airport.

Here is a video of our Waymo experience:

 

Our flight home on May 15th was the low point of the entire 10 days. En route to the airport we learned that our outgoing flight was delayed and we would miss our connection in Salt Lake City. At the airport Delta staff rebooked us through Seattle, but with a 6-hour delay and in coach, not the first class we had paid for. We arrived in Kansas City past 11 p.m. where our daughter waited for us at the airport. It was after midnight when we entered our home, 17 hours after we awoke that morning. And we had 9 a.m. appointments in the morning… Brutal. The entire journey, Exhilarating!

Peace Everyone. Pete

 

 

May 9th. A short cab ride brought us to Chicago’s Union Station, and just like that our 4 days in the “Windy City” were behind us.

Chicago’s Union Station is attractive, as is Denver’s Union Station, both on our route.

Chicago Union Station

Denver’s Union Station

Denver’s Union Station

They are not in the same league as Kansas City’s Union Station. We have previously visited New York City’s Grand Central Terminal, which is significant but, in my opinion, just a close second to KC.

New York Grand Central Terminal

Kansas City Union Station

Kansas City Union Station

Kansas City Union Station

This is not just a matter of Kansas City “pride”:

“KC Union Station encompasses 850,000 square feet of space and originally had 900 rooms on 10 levels. The ceiling in the Grand Hall soars 95 feet high and from it hang three chandeliers, each weighing 3,500 pounds. A 6-foot-high clock hangs from the ceiling at the nexus of the Grand and North Halls. The North Waiting Hall, with its 65-foot ceiling, can contain an assemblage of 10,000 people.” (from USA Today)

Major city rail stations all carry the name “Union”, not in reference to the Civil War, but because in the heyday of passenger rail travel they served many rail companies and thus were a “union” of many routes.

The Chicago Station had an attractive waiting area for certain classes of ticketed passengers. It was stocked with beverages and snacks.

We were surprised to see a large population of Amish and/or Mennonite passengers. We believe that they departed our train somewhere in Iowa.

The California Zephyr was scheduled to depart Chicago at 2 p.m. and arrive 52 hours later in Emeryville California.

The final connection to San Francisco would be 30 minutes by Amtrak chartered bus. We had heard horror stories of hours long delays that resulted in midnight arrivals, loss of hotel reservations, and no available late night public transportation. Fortunately, our departure and arrival were both on time.

There were three groups of passengers. Those in regular coach seating (reserved and open seating), those in small 2 seat “roomettes” which convert to narrow top and bottom sleepers,

and Superliner bedroom compartments with more space that includes a private toilet and shower. We traveled in that third category.

It was nice to have our own bathroom, but it was nearly half the size of a phone booth (for those who remember what a phone booth is) and did double service as a shower.

I used it for both purposes but after sizing up the challenges Christine limited her use to the toilet, deciding to wait for the comfort of our San Francisco hotel shower.

Roomette and bedroom passenger tickets include well prepared meals in an elegant dining car.

Coach passengers may access the dining car for a price ($25 each for breakfast and lunch, $45 for dinner) if there is seating still available. Coach passengers also have a “café” option where meals can be purchased ala carte.

The train also featured a sightseeing car available for all to use. Seating was limited and at one point the conductor limited use to hour and a half rotations. It worked.

Who rides the Zephyr? Those afraid of flying, those favoring low tech (the Amish/Mennonites?) and those just pursuing the experience. We fell into the third category.

On the first night Christine and I tried to share the bottom bunk in our compartment. The bed was long enough but about the width of one and a half twin beds. On night two we optioned to have the upper and lower beds both prepared.

Sleeping for me was not as much of a challenge as it was for Christine. Significant rail sections were rough and “rocky”. This was not the regular motion of a vessel at sea, but more like the shaking of a moderate earthquake.

We were a few cars from the engine, but not far enough to be insulated from the train’s signal horn. As the train approached every intersection the engineer sounded the horn: two long blasts, a short one, and then a final long one. EVERY intersection day and night, large or small, urban and rural. The sounds wound themselves as tendrils into my dreams. They just kept Christine awake.

The personnel on the train were efficient and professional. This included the conductor, the dining attendants, and Tanika who was our cabin attendant. She had coffee brewing at the end of our car at 6 a.m. each morning, collected garbage, provided bottled water on demand, and turned down our beds at night, then made up our cabin the following morning. Through it all she maintained a smile.

There was a major problem with the adjoining train car. The toilets in the sleeping rooms ceased to function. Thankfully, we were not affected. Those passengers who were used the general toilet facilities available to coach passengers. We understand that they would be compensated with partial refunds.

We experienced minor annoyances. Our compartment only had two electric outlets and no USB ports. This, no doubt, is due to the pre-internet age of the train car. There was no Wi-Fi, and cell service tended to be spotty because there were stretches that did not parallel major roadways. The compartment had a very small 6-inch-wide hanging locker, but no suitcase storage. We chose to work around and out of our bags rather than keep them in baggage storage located outside and downstairs from our compartment. Based on our experience we recommend that travelers keep a small bag with only the barest essentials in their compartment.

The scenery is where the Zephyr really shined. We reached the Mississippi by late afternoon and crossed into Iowa.

We slept through Nebraska and awoke to the eastern plains of Colorado.

First view of the mountains was exciting.  We arrived in Denver before businesses opened. This was our longest stop at about 40 minutes.

Putting Denver behind us, we quickly ascended into the mountains where we entered and exited dozens of tunnels.

The 6.2-mile-long Moffat Tunnel (built in 1927 and currently the fourth longest rail tunnel in the US) took over 10 minutes to transit and is the highest point in the entire Amtrak system at over 9,000 feet.

From Wikipedia

There were more tunnels. When we emerged from the Moffat at Winter Park we were amazed to see people still skiing.

It is possible to tire of the scenery as it unrolls, mile after mile. A kind of visual fatigue sets in which gets shaken out when something new appears.

 

One such example was the appearance of kayaks and rafts on the Colorado River.

More sights…

It did not take long to observe a curious habit with some of the river folk. One after another (male and female) turned their backs to us and dropped their pants, “mooning” the train.

The conductor explained over the intercom that “mooning the Amtrak” began over 40 years ago in California and has since expanded along the route. I did not get a closeup picture, but many are available online.

There were also some sad sights…

Would we do it again? Probably not. However, we are considering the trans-Canada equivalent for the future. 13 days long, with 5 onboard. We are also considering 2-month Eurail passes. Unlimited train travel in 33 countries at a cost of approximately $1,700 for the two of us.

Would we recommend the California Zephyr? Yes, to people who with eyes open understand the limitations of the experience. For those who wish to see just the highlights, book the trip from Denver, Colorado to Reno, Nevada.

Next, Part 3: San Francisco.

Peace Everyone. Pete