Written August 13, 2023. At Kansas City, Missouri.
I was recently engaged in a deep conversation with a good friend. The conversation wandered to a discussion of their loved one who had passed a few years ago. I was aware that theirs had been a close relationship yet tinged with some minor regrets. I asked, “Do you still feel any regrets over what you might have done differently for them?”
“Yes, I suppose that I still do.” To which I responded, “When do you think you will grant yourself resolution?” (Or is it absolution?)
“Maybe never” came the too quick response. Clearly, my friend had grown comfortable with the small regret still held.
I found myself wondering if there is anything positive in holding a regret and not granting oneself resolution.
It occurs to me that with resolution comes closure, an end to the unfinished business, time to move on. Holding on to a regret may be one away of not letting go and holding the departed close in one’s thoughts and feelings.
Just a thought.
Peace Everyone. Pete